tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6139238262971346080.post1630881617027881283..comments2023-06-01T07:29:34.444-04:00Comments on Herons Transforming -- Our Bariatric Weight Loss Journey: Milestones and trudging onUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6139238262971346080.post-13638035511967473452009-04-21T14:19:00.000-04:002009-04-21T14:19:00.000-04:00Tom, no apologies necessary about not writing here...Tom, no apologies necessary about not writing here, please! :) Yes, we readers are concerned when none of you check in but my god! You all have enough on your plate right now. If any of you want to just post a smilie face so we know things are okay, even though you don't have time/inclination to write, that would be good enough. :)<br /><br />As for the rest, give yourself more time. Completely normal not to be interested in sex right now; we're going through various stresses ourselves right now, not even physical and it's playing havoc with our intimacy. <br /><br />Give yourself time; it really hasn't been very long and you had major surgery plus a nasty infection; your body is not fully recovered yet although well on the way. <br /><br />I hear you on wanting to be back to "yourself" again; I have gone through a similar need/want over the past year but it just took time, I couldn't rush it, as much as I wanted to.<br /><br />Have faith in Time; it is the great healer. :)Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12275774046219836099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6139238262971346080.post-75824614078412121062009-04-20T10:59:00.000-04:002009-04-20T10:59:00.000-04:00I'm just going to quietly look in with some hugs, ...I'm just going to quietly look in with some hugs, because I think impish has pretty much covered what I'd have said too.<br /><br />I think it was probably LynLass who was specifically enquiring about the wound vac. I do find it fascinating to think it makes so much difference, but I'm not medical so I imagine those who are understand the progress of it much more clearly.<br /><br />Remember at the beginning of this process? When you wrote about how terrified you were about going through it? I remember saying something to you then about even warriors needing a soft place to fall sometimes. You have been SUCH a warrior through this process (all of you actually), and so yes, right now, a soft place to fall and be gentle with yourself is about right. I know you have that.....and this too will pass.<br /><br />Know we're all thinking of you....still amazed by the courage you've all had to go through this, still cheering you on, pom-poms held high!!<br /><br />love and hugs xxxM:ehttp://www.aspectsofme.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6139238262971346080.post-69176245599060475162009-04-20T09:33:00.000-04:002009-04-20T09:33:00.000-04:00Impish --
Thank you for the pep talk that I would ...Impish --<br />Thank you for the pep talk that I would give if I had the energy and leeway. It is so hard to see this struggle and be so powerless to do anything other than support and stay ready to assist. I cannot speed the healing, though I would do anything on earth if I could. I cannot make the future arrive any sooner than it will. I can only stay and make sure that there are good meals and enough to drink and a ready hug and sometimes a bit of light-hearted fun... It is a drain on us all, but I am believing that this will turn out to be a positive and that health and wellness will come to us all as we go through this process.<br />You have helped immeasurably with your words here.<br /><br />hugs, swanSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03961893281142538409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6139238262971346080.post-56283729975167554052009-04-20T08:53:00.000-04:002009-04-20T08:53:00.000-04:00Oh, Tom, I wish I could reach through my computer ...Oh, Tom, I wish I could reach through my computer to give you a reassuring pat and shoulder rub. Your physical and emotional exhaustion comes through loud and clear - perfectly understandable at this point, but please don't let it overcome your faith that you ARE on your way. You just took a longer, harder route. Some of us just don't like the easy way!<br />Try not to be concerned over the fact that you are not participating sexually at this point. In fact, the fact that that you are even interested in it at all is a good sign. Remember that 24 hours ago, you were still taking narcotics, and your body is attempting to heal major wounds while it is essentially starving itself - remember how much weight you have lost how fast. In addition to that, go back and read your description of how your body is reacting to your walks. They are definitely the way to build your body back to a strength that will be useful for sex or anything else, but it takes time. A marathon runner does not have to run a marathon every day - and he does not go home and have a sex and spank session after! God knows I feel for Swan because I would be right there with her pulling my hair out behind the door, this is going to take time. It will come back, and your stamina should be that much better in the long run for your better health.<br />You have earned each of those pounds lost, and there will be a better future in store. Hang in there.Impish1noreply@blogger.com